How can we find Joy in Life?
'Time spent laughing is time spent with the gods.
Definition of Joy:
'the emotion of great delight or happiness caused by something exceptionally good or satisfying; keen pleasure; elation.
It's a funny thing...
Joy happens when we are NOT looking for it. It's like magic.
We are 'inside' of Joy... and when we are in this place... we don't even think of the fact that we are experiencing joy. We are inside this moment... and 'en-joying' it!
The moment we step out... start thinking...
"I want to hold on to this feeling" – it escapes!
So... what should we do? How can we get to this place…?
Remember, when we were children? We never thought... wow... I'm having a really good time...
No. We were just inside the feeling. Just there, having a good time. This was true for all feelings... not just joy... we could get really excited, really mad and really silly.
So what happened?
We got BIG... and serious... and important!
That's what happened... We built ourselves some tough, strong and 'reliable' control-systems.
Because we are scared to let go of the systems we have created for ourselves... this way we feel in CONTROL.
So, we go to work... nervous about the boss... stressed about our performance... holding up our 'professional' image... etc...
We come home... we are overwhelmed with tasks and chores.
We rush through it all. How else can we keep it up? What will be tomorrow? We worry.
We meet with friends. Can we let go? Most often not, because the control systems we've built are numerous, the belief systems are set. TIGHT. I'm sure you get the point.
"I'm an adult... I can't make a fool of myself..."
"This behavior is totally inadequate for someone in his position... at his age... bla bla"
"Nooo... I couldn't... people will laugh at me"
"Sorry, don't have the time... I'm in a hurry... got so much on my mind... so much to do..."
"I don't deserve to feel... joy in life... happiness..." Yes. We don't want to acknowledge this, but it's there... no matter how cool we are – oh – so cool.
Ok... so what to do?
Here are some things we can do to rediscover joy in life:
To smile is good... to 'allow' yourself to laugh out loud is better!
Laughing involves your whole body! It releases tensions. Laughing is contagious and will involve your surroundings, making it alright for everybody to let down their guards.
Please watch this Laughing Therapy Introduction video with Nili Dor HaElla... you can join in...
It feels great and you might feel JOY doing it... ha.
Go ahead! Just LAUGH!
joy in life
This is essential – if we don't know how to receive... Joy can just stare us in the face... but we won't know how to receive it.
It needs courage – but the good thing is, that once you get going, it gets easier and easier. And people around you will catch on!
Joy is just like laughing – it's contagious!