Keeping it Balanced...
Giving and Receiving
"Before giving, the mind of the giver is happy; while giving, the mind of the giver is made peaceful; and having given, the mind of the giver is uplifted."
Philosophy of Life
It is imperative for any giver to have a receiver – the act of giving cannot be complete without the receiving opposite.
This fact is often overseen – we often look at the wonderful trait of 'giving' as an act standing by itself. We perceive 'giving' as the ultimate positive characteristic in any person:
'She is a wonderful person... a great giver.'
Often we look at things in a simplified way – Givers are good – Giving is good!
It isn't all that simple...
It is important to understand the difference between 'giving and receiving' and 'doing and taking'.
When we feel emptied and exhausted by 'giving, giving, giving' and feel we are not getting back – we are most probably in a 'doing' mode – and there are plenty of 'takers' to oblige...
So.. if your 'giving' is draining you... this page is for you.
In order to really understand 'Giving' we need to learn the 'Art of Receiving'.
Deepak Chopra is a leading expert in mind/body medicine. As a physician, Dr. Chopra tackles far-reaching questions about our ability to heal ourselves.
In order to keep energy and prosperity coming to us, we have to keep the energy circulating. A river must keep flowing, otherwise it begins to stagnate, to suffocate and strangle its very own life force.
Circulation keeps a river and every living thing in it alive and vital. Giving and receiving are different aspects of the flow of energy in the universe. If you stop the flow of either, you interfere with nature's intelligence.
The universe operates through dynamic exchange, giving and receiving are different aspects of the flow of energy in the universe.
The flow of life is nothing other than the harmonious interaction of all the elements and forces that structure the field of existence. This harmonious interaction of elements and forces in our life operates as the Law of Giving and Receiving.
The Art of Receiving
Every Giver needs a Receiver – So why does receiving make most of us feel uncomfortable?
We are offered a compliment and we find ways to brush it off – not accepting it.
Someone offers us help – and we quickly jump into the "No thanks, I'm fine... I'll manage..." mode.
Most of us associate receiving with shame and weakness – Where are we when it comes to RECEIVING?
I know only very few who have truly mastered the art of receiving.
Receiving requires us to open up – become a vessel – letting go of our control and letting it happen... trust the giver and be humble.
A wonderful way to practice receiving is through Water Healing - Watsu.
I have found this therapeutic healing method to be most successful in finding the amazingly relaxing benefits of being a receiver.
1. Accept all compliments - let the giver do his/her part... and be thankful for the compliment - Thank You.
2. Gratitude - Be grateful - Count your blessings – Write down five things you are grateful about - every day – make it a daily routine.
3. Allow yourself to be YOU - with all the strengths and weaknesses you may have. Try not to pretend to be perfect, showing only your 'greatness' – be real. This facilitates giving and receiving.
4. Stop complaining – What are we really saying when we complain? We are not happy with what we are receiving. We are not grateful and don't appreciate the given.
These 4 steps make a huge difference in perspective and are the base for receiving – and giving follows automatically in reciprocity.
Giving and Receiving
What happens to the Giver when giving?
When I give – if material or other – it makes ME feel good! Thinking of the person I will give something to (the receiver) fills my heart with love for this person.
The more I give to this person... the more I love him/her.
This is how it works for me.
So – if you ever feel like increasing your love for someone specific... GIVE to that person... you'll see how your love for him/her grows.
Does this mean that my giving will make someone else feel the same way I do? Will this person love me more because I gave to him/her?
No, of course not...
What happens to the person who is given to (the receiver)?
If this person is capable of receiving from the giver... the act is complete... perfect.
Both sides benefit tremendously from the process.
Love is increased... the world is a better place... :)
As I see it – being a recipient – is not that simple... as explained above.
We often associate receiving with weakness.
'Giving' cannot be complete if 'Receiving' has not been learned.
What happens to the recipient who is not able to receive?
Giving to a person, who is not able to receive, will not have the intended results - on the contrary.
Give to this person once... ok... he'll open an account... twice... your love grows towards this person... and the more you love... the more you want to give – but – STOP!
This person is not able to receive... so what happens? This person cannot respond with happiness or thankfulness – rather feels guilt and powerless – and a dept starts growing... anger and resentment come in as well, because there is no place for the love that is given... no vessel to receive.
As this goes on... the 'giver' feels disappointed... because her/his love has grown – and there is no equal response from the other – no reciprocity – the circle cannot be closed.
We often misunderstand the signs... We might think – this person, whom I love so much (because of my giving) – is feeling bad... I will give her/him more... to make her/him feel better.
What happens is exactly the opposite – Giving in this case makes things worse... on both sides.
Giving and Receiving - Yin and Yang need to be in balance
Giving alone – will lead to unhappiness.
Receiving needs to be learned just as giving has to learned... The art of Giving is taught and promoted in all areas of society... family, school, religions...
Once we learn to receive - Giving will have a whole new meaning...
~ Deepak Chopra
From Library Journal: Teilhard de Chardin said: "We are spiritual beings having a human experience."
Chopra builds on this powerful thought in this recording that expands his life's work in spiritual approaches to daily living. He explains the laws of pure potentiality, giving, karma, least effort, intention and desire, detachment, and dharma and includes useful suggestions on how to apply these fundamental, natural principles if one is truly searching for purpose and a satisfying life.
Ancient Vedic concepts form the basis of this philosophy of living that transcends the Eurocentric theological dogma that seems to preoccupy Western thought, especially among Americans.
Seven simple principles sound like too few to achieve real success; but spiritually-oriented searchers will find this man's teachings fit with business and personal pursuits alike. 'Natural law' is the focus of and foundation for Chopra's guidance.